Children are the number one predictor of marital dissatisfaction in the research literature. Not money, not in-laws: kids. Couples who love each other, who built something good, routinely report that the arrival of children strained everything: the sleep, the money, the intimacy, the friendship. Choosing to protect a good marriage, choosing your partner over a hypothetical child, is treated as selfish, which tells you how warped the moral math has become. Since when is tending the love you actually have less noble than gambling it on love you might feel for someone who doesn't exist yet?
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